Self-Love Not Selfish by Linda Contreras

Often times someone throws the term self-love out, and it has become so subjective that it almost seems as if it’s selfish to love yourself. It’s this preconceived notion that stating you love yourself, or that you like this part of yourself is selfish. It’s selfish to feel proud of your accomplishments or that it’s selfish to take a day off for yourself. However, it’s important to keep in mind there’s a vast difference between self-love and being selfish.

Self-love, a noun, is defined as a regard for one's own well-being and happiness. The concept is anything but narcissistic, rather an essential part of living a happy and fulfilling life. Self-love comes in multiple aspects, taking a day off from the stress of life, taking a bubble bath, or even sleeping early. Sometimes it comes off that it’s selfish to have self-love because you’re putting yourself first and not sacrificing your wellbeing to please others. As a culture, we’re taught to be selfless, to put others first. Although it is important to be selfless and live without greed or envy, it’s also important to put oneself first and acknowledge one’s own feelings and priorities.

People like to believe that self-love and selfishness are synonymous, that you can’t be one without the other. That’s not true, you don’t have to be one and think you’ll become the other. As a society, we must mold ourselves to believe that self-love is necessary for one’s life and then we’ll live a happy life.


Triveni Patel